From: The Bitcoin whitepaper
Bitcoin has no owner, and is not defined by law, by Bitcoin exchanges, or by anything other than the decision of people around the world. Like everything else about Bitcoin, its very definition is decentralised. The answer is up to you (and everyone in the world) to decide for themselves.
The Bitcoin Cash community (and The Bitcoin Cash Podcast) adamantly maintains that Bitcoin Cash (BCH) is Bitcoin, and Bitcoin (BTC) is not Bitcoin.
This might seem like strange semantic pedantry, but it is actually critically important. This dispute stems from history, explains why Bitcoin Cash will not rebrand and has very large stakes because the Bitcoin name and brand has a strong philosophical, commercial and market value. It cuts to the legitimacy of each community/coin, and as Vitalik Buterin (co-founder of Ethereum) would say the only scarce resource is legitimacy.
Note also that cryptocurrencies and their network effects benefit very strongly from the Lindy effect, the longer they exist the more they are perceived as reliable, trustworthy and resilient. Bitcoin, being the first launched coin, has the strongest benefit of this effect and therefore as time progresses the benefit of gaining the Bitcoin title increases rather than fades in relevance. If BCH is to reclaim the Bitcoin title from BTC, it must create an undeniable edge technologically and economically but also in the public's recognition.
How can a new user to the ecosystem decide whether Bitcoin Cash (BCH) or Bitcoin (BTC) is the real Bitcoin? A number of recommended starting considerations is below, it is left to the user to determine the relative importance of each metric:
Personal experience: Try both coins yourself! Bitcoin is supposed to be money for the world, and the coin the most people find most useful will become known as Bitcoin through common acceptance and demand.
Whitepaper: Read the original Bitcoin whitepaper. This document by Satoshi Nakamoto explains the concept and workings of Bitcoin.
Other Satoshi writings: Read Satoshi's online discussions. The whitepaper is the most critical element of Satoshi's writing, but further context can be found in his subsequent writings.
Most notably, Satoshi explicitly favoured a blocksize increase approach to scaling, which was the central issue that BCH and BTC diverged on. BCH followed the advice of Satoshi and raised the blocksize, while BTC determined not to raise the blocksize and investigate other scaling solutions.
Early Bitcoin applications: Before Bitcoin split into BCH and BTC, one of its most popular early applications was called Satoshi Dice, a website allowing users to gamble online with Bitcoins. The application now runs only on BCH. Due to the high fees on BTC, it is no longer functional or viable.
Early Bitcoin evangelists: Watch some talks from prominent, visionary, early Bitcoin evangelists before Bitcoin became contentious and split into Bitcoin Cash and Bitcoin BTC. Consider how they thought about Bitcoin, and which project today sounds like the one they described then.
Example 1: Andreas Antonopolous in 2013, who later supported BTC.
Example 2: Roger Ver in 2013, who later supported BCH.
Compare statistics: Coin.dance maintains an excellent site that allows users to compare stats from Bitcoin forks. Hash rate may be particularly relevant, as referenced in the whitepaper.
Usage / community: Get involved in the BTC and BCH communities, and see which one best embodies the "spirit" of Bitcoin ("spirit" defined by your own judgement).
Consider technical arguments: This one is quite involved, but the Segregated Witness upgrade added to BTC but not BCH was also a point of contention among Bitcoin purists. For a more indepth argument of the technical aspects, see this excellent video by Peter Rizun. For even more detailed follow up debate, see this Reddit thread.